1. Make sure that you activate sparks of sexual and romantic attraction when you interact with her


If you’ve built up enough sexual tension between you and your ex, then she is almost certainly going to be open to a hug.

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Hugging allows some of the built up sexual tension to be released as you hold each other.

It doesn’t get rid of it, but it allows some of it to be used to feel good as you hug each other.

So, after you’ve flirted with her a little bit, lean towards her and say, “Hey – chatting again is kind of fun, isn’t it?” and let her agree.

Then, say something like, “I think you deserve a hug for being such a cool ex. Come here and give me a hug” and lean in to make the hug happen.

Then, hug her, give her a warm, firm squeeze and hold her in your arms for a few seconds.

Then, pull back, look into her eyes (in a confident, relaxed manner) and smile.

If you have been making her feel attracted prior to that moment, she will probably lean in for the kiss.

If she doesn’t lean in because she wants you to do it, or because she is afraid of giving you too much power in the interaction, don’t be afraid to lean in a couple of inches and let her close the distance and kiss you, or lean in and when you see that she isn’t moving away, close the distance, meet her lips and begin to kiss.

4 Mistakes That Some Guys Make When Trying to Get a Kiss From an Ex

To avoid getting rejected when you try to get a kiss from your ex, be sure to avoid the following mistakes:

1. Being neutral and expecting her to want to kiss

Sometimes a guy doesn’t want to come across as being too forward with his ex woman, so he will act like just a friend.

Instead of flirting with her and building up sexual tension, he spends the entire time pretending he’s not interested in anything other than being her nice, neutral friend.

She then feels nothing or close to nothing for him, in terms of sexual and romantic attraction, so she has no desire to want to get to a kiss.

Here’s the thing…

If you want to get your ex to kiss you, you can’t pretend to be her neutral friend and then expect it to happen.

She’s got to know for sure that you’re attracted to her in a sexual, romantic way and that you’re open to being with her in that way.

So, don’t act like Mr. Nice Guy, Mr. Plain or Mr. Neutral around her.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you should be sexually aggressive and come on too strong, because that may cause her to clam up and feel the need to reject you.

Instead, what you need to do is focus on making her experience sexual and romantic feelings for you as you talk to her, so she naturally feels the desire to get to a hug, kiss and potentially sex after that.

The next mistake is…

2. Asking her if she wants to kiss

In life, whenever you ask for something, you always stand the chance of getting a “No.”

So, if you don’t want to hear your ex say, “No” to your request to kiss her, then don’t make the mistake of asking permission to kiss her.

Here’s the thing…

Not only is being asked for a kiss not romantic for most women because it suggests that the guy isn’t attracted enough to her, to want to just grab her in his arms and kiss her, but it also makes him appear as insecure and self-doubting, which is unattractive.

So, if things are going well with your ex (i.e. you’ve been sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you), don’t blow it by asking her if you can kiss her.

Just do it.

If she’s not ready to kiss you, she will turn her cheek or say, “No,” and you can then respect that.

Alternatively, you can laugh and say, “Oh, well, I guess I read your signals wrong. I thought you wanted to rip my clothes off and jump on for a ride” and then have a laugh with her about that.

If saying something like that is a bit too much for you, then you really need to man up and stop worrying so much about how women will react.

Remember: If you fear her reaction, she won’t feel attraction.

Women are naturally attracted to good men, who have the balls to say and do what they want around them.

This doesn’t mean you should be bad to women, rude, mean, selfish or anything like that.

It means that you should be the good man that you are, but also have the balls to say whatever you want, without worrying about how she is going to react.

If you are only joking, then you have nothing to worry about.

If she can’t take the joke (most of the time she will just be pretending to be offended), then you can turn it back on her by laughing (important! Don’t forget to laugh), smile and jokingly saying, “You take things too seriously girl. You need to lighten up. You’re way too sensitive” and then have a laugh with her about that.

If you’re not confident enough to jokingly talk to a woman like that, then you’re always going to struggle to make women respect you.

Remember: If you fear her reaction, she won’t feel attraction.

Be a good man, but don’t hold back from playfully messing with a woman because you fear her potential reaction.

The same rule applies to kissing her.

If she wants to kiss and you then fearfully ask for her permission, she will almost certainly lose respect for you for not having the balls to take the initiative and just do it.

As a result, she will probably reject your kiss or say something like, “No, I don’t think that’s a good idea” because your self-doubt turned her off.

The next mistake to avoid is…

3. Having stressful conversations about the relationship and then expecting a kiss

When seeing your ex again, it might be tempting to want to have a detailed, emotional conversation about what happened between you and her in the relationship.

For example: A guy might say, “I’m so sorry for hurting you. I know I stuffed things up between us, but I really have changed and I’m not like that anymore. I was so selfish and just cared about myself, but I now know that being like that is wrong. You deserved so much better from me. I would always get angry at you and expect you to just put up with it. I never really cared about how you felt and I’m sorry. I believe that we can work things out between us if you give me a chance to prove myself to you. I still love you and believe that you and I are so right for each other. Yes, we had some problems, but I know that it’s nothing we can’t resolve if we really wanted to. So, how do you feel about us trying again? Would you be willing to give it a go? Will you give me a chance to prove to you that I can make happy now?”

Here’s the thing though…

Getting into stressful conversations about the relationship isn’t the way to create feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of her.

Instead of feeling excited and turned on, she feels annoyed, stressed and frustrated and starts to focus on all the things about that you she didn’t like when in a relationship, rather than on the things she does like about you.

If you’re talking to her in person, she then starts to think things like, “This meet up was a bad idea. I thought we might have had a chance to work things out, but now I realize there’s too much baggage between us to be able to have an actual relationship again. I have to move on. It’s over.”

If you don’t want your ex to be thinking like that, avoid getting into serious, stressful conversations about the relationship.

Instead, just focus on making her smile, laugh and feel good to be around you again.

The more relaxed and attracted she feels when she’s with you, the less she will remember the things about you that turned her off in the past.

Her guard will come down and she will then open up to hugging you, kissing you and potentially having sex with you again.

The next mistake to avoid is…

4. Turning her off by appearing nervous, tense and unsure

Women can easily notice and sense nervousness and self-doubt in men and it’s a huge turn off.

This is why you need to make sure that you feel completely confident in yourself when around her.

You need to know how to attract her again and believe that it’s working, otherwise, you might end up doubting yourself and missing out on a great opportunity to kiss her and get her back.

Here’s the thing…

Women don’t like having to reward emotional weakness with kissing, sex and love because they are instinctively programmed to be attracted to and reward emotional strength in men.

If your ex senses that you are unsure about yourself, she will naturally close herself off and possibly decide there and then, that it’s time for her to find another man.

So, when you meet up with your ex, focus on having confident thoughts about yourself and your value and attractiveness to her.

Imagine her wanting to kiss you because you are a confident, emotionally strong, emotionally masculine man.

Believe it.

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When you believe in yourself, she will sense it (via your body language and the tonality of your voice) and she will automatically feel respect and attraction.